Deprecated: Assigning the return value of new by reference is deprecated in /nfs/c02/h08/mnt/19369/domains/crittendens.com/html/wp-includes/cache.php on line 36

Deprecated: Assigning the return value of new by reference is deprecated in /nfs/c02/h08/mnt/19369/domains/crittendens.com/html/wp-includes/query.php on line 21

Deprecated: Assigning the return value of new by reference is deprecated in /nfs/c02/h08/mnt/19369/domains/crittendens.com/html/wp-includes/theme.php on line 508
Crittenden Family Website

Aug 11 2008

Published by Betsy under Family Photos

Will - July 2008

22 responses so far

Aug 11 2008

Published by Betsy under Family Photos

Paige - June 2008

31 responses so far

Aug 11 2008

Published by Betsy under Family Photos

Charlotte - June 2008

72 responses so far

Aug 11 2008

Published by Betsy under Family Photos

Paige - June 2008

One response so far

Aug 11 2008

Published by Betsy under Family Photos

Paige - June 2008

53 responses so far

Aug 11 2008

Published by Betsy under Family Photos

Will - June 2008

52 responses so far

Aug 11 2008

Published by Betsy under Family Photos

12-07.jpg

63 responses so far

Aug 11 2008

Grandkids

Published by Betsy under Family Photos

img_0244-1.JPGdsc_7558.JPGimg_0088.jpgimg_0043.jpgCharlotte & Will - Fall 2007grandkids_2008.jpg

27 responses so far

Aug 11 2008

Now and Then (Summer Newsletter)

The phrase “now and then” often defines something that occurs sporadically, perhaps even inconsequentially. Every now and then you may discover a book you really enjoy. Every now and then you meet someone who potentially might become a good friend. Whatever happens “now and then” may well have a superficial, perhaps even a transient quality to it.

However, these two words do have a far more critical and urgent quality to them when considered in the light of our aging population and their families. When two people look at each other, sharing a desperate look on their faces, the question “What do we do now?” can have great significance. Such a question may have the note of a dawning awareness or the confirmation of knowing something that you would really rather not know. At times, holidays are like that. The extended family gathers for Thanksgiving, Christmas, or the 4th of July celebration and some of “the kids” see Mom or Dad reacting, or not reacting, in different and disturbing ways.

In preparing for the shared family meal the question arises, “Mom, where do you keep your corkscrew?” The family members are shocked and concerned when they realize that not only does Mom not know where the corkscrew is but at that moment she does not even know what a corkscrew is! And Mom lives alone! “What do we do now?” become the critical question of the day. For another family such a group gathering may have involved Dad volunteering to run to the store for a few grocery items. He was out and gone before anyone could go with him, and it is now several hours later and he is just pulling into the driveway. He rather sheepishly confesses that he became “lost” and has just now found his way home. The family looks at each other and they almost say in unison, “What do we do now?”.

These situations and these questions are disconcerting to “the kids”, who themselves may be 50 - 65 years old. After several family meetings, whether in person or on the phone, the group comes to realize that as important as the “What do we do now?” question is, it is only the first half of critical double question, for soon the group question, becomes, “What do we do then?” If we can arrive at a quick, yet momentary, resolution to the more difficult or crisis-driven question of “What do we do now?” the equally important question comes of “What do we do then?” Now and then, short term and long term, present and future, these questions just keep coming, often with no comforting answers.

One possible solution for both of these families would be to engage the services of a professional geriatric care manager (PGCM). Care managers are skilled health care

professionals who understand the world of the senior adult and are experienced in aiding families to find creative solutions such dilemmas. Being well versed in the availability of community resources the PGCM can be the guide through the forest of decisions where the family has never had to travel. The issues surrounding Medicare, Medicaid, in-home services, assisted living, skilled care, health care power of attorney, family finances, and eldercare legal issues can be as perplexing as they are crucial for the senior adult and families to understand.

For senior adults and their families “now and then” is far more than a casual or inconsequential moment. The realities of “here and now” become their immediate focus. The presence and information of a PGCM can make this critical time in the life of any family less disturbing. Usually one call is all it takes to begin the healing process for all concerned.

J. William Crittenden
President and Care Manager
Senior Care Management Associates, LLC
Chapel Hill, NC
Ph: (919) 636-2016

www.senior-care-management.com

bill@senior-care-management.com

56 responses so far

Feb 11 2008

Will’s First Birthday

Published by Betsy under Family Photos

img_0169.jpg

30 responses so far

Next »